For those that don’t know, my wife Katie and I are in the process of adopting a child.  It’s been a long, difficult journey, but now we are at a point where we know that it’s going to happen… we just don’t know when, or who, or any of the other details that you may ask about… so don’t… please.

Through this process, though, we’ve heard one thing over and over again – “you’re going to be great parents.”  We both have great examples of what it means to be good parents.  If we stop and think about it, we’ll be all right.  However, there are those times when we think, “Are we ready for this?” or “How bad are we going to mess up as parents?”  In reality, we know that nobody has it all down.  Everybody faces those fears, and overcomes them.  In fact, that brings me to something from today’s reading in 1 Samuel.

“Don’t be afraid,” Samuel reassured them. “You have certainly done wrong, but make sure now that you worship the lord with all your heart, and don’t turn your back on him” (1 Sam 12:20).

I realize that we are going to mess up from time to time.  We are going to make bad decisions, even though we will try our best to not do so.  However, in the midst of those bad decisions, we are going to make one very good one – we are going to trust in the Lord through the whole process.  No matter what we do, we will do it with the best interests of our child’s future, and we will do it with the intention of passing on that trust to our little one.

In some ways, I imagine this part of parenting is a lot like being a pastor.  No matter what you do, somebody is going to think it’s wrong… some will even take the time to tell you how wrong it is, and what you need to do better.  Everyone has an opinion, and their opinion is usually the right one – even when they don’t have all the information.  However, I know as a pastor that everything I do is what I believe is the best for the church, and what God is calling us to do… even when people disagree with it.

Above all, it’s important to remember that “when you mess up” is not an “if” proposition, but “when”.  We will makes mistakes in life – all of us, but it is important for us to continue pressing on in God’s call for our lives, to continue following Him.

Oh, and for the Grammar Nazis that want to jump on the title of this blog… I did that on purpose.  You’re going to mess up from time to time, too.  Don’t forget that.

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